Couples struggling with challenging situations, infidelity, or high conflict will sometimes overlook divorce mediation as an option. There’s a misconception that mediation is just for easy cases, or for traditional marriages, or for couples who are already in agreement on most topics.

There are the cases that people tell us will never succeed in mediation because they’re just too “impossible,” for example:

• You haven’t talked to your spouse in years;
• You can’t bear to be in the same room together;
• You’re a woman, and all your friends tell you mediation doesn’t protect women;
• There’s been an affair, and you feel like you can never trust your spouse again;
• You believe your spouse is struggling with narcissistic, bipolar, or borderline personality disorder;
• Your spouse is struggling with alcoholism, gambling, or drug addiction;
• You and your co-parent disagree about parental relocation, school placement, or religious upbringing;
• You realize that you (or your spouse) are gay or transgender, and a decision has been made to end the marriage. 

We know from our experience as mediators that these can be challenging situations. We’ve encountered them before, and in each of these scenarios, we’ve helped couples reach the finish line. We’ve also helped many families where the children or spouses have special needs. We never take your challenges for granted, and we’re committed to bringing our full expertise, attention, and respect to your situation.

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and like you have no choice but to surrender to the adversarial process. But you do have a choice. By choosing mediation, you can save time and money, preserve family privacy, and make these important decisions yourselves.