1. Divorce Mediation Causes Less Emotional Wear and Tear.
For most people, separation and divorce can be an emotionally traumatic and exhausting experience. Mediation, with its focus on each person's needs and the future, offers a gentler way through this time. While litigation often exaggerates already explosive emotions, mediation helps couples navigate this difficult transition without added rancor.
2. Divorce Mediation Is Good for the Children.
Research shows that it is exposure to parental conflict rather than divorce itself that potentially harms the children. Mediation helps protect the relationship between the parents as they proceed through the divorce process, by encouraging respectful communication and cooperation. Our goal is for separating and divorcing parents to be able to look forward to events like graduations, ballet recitals, sport events, and weddings -- without awkwardness or anxiety. To see research findings on the benefits of mediation for children and parents,click here.
3. Divorce Mediation Saves Money.
Mediation generally costs less than 1/10 the cost of of litigation. In litigation you pay to speak to your attorney; then pay your attorney to speak to the other attorney; then the attorneys consult back with each client, and so forth. If you go to trial, you pay for discovery and many hours of preparation. By contrast, mediation saves time and money by encouraging cooperation and direct communication. Click here for more details about Cost & Time in mediation.
4. Divorce Mediation Saves Time.
Mediation is generally completed within one to four months. Litigation is often measured in years.
5. Divorce Mediation Is Effective.
Mediation has a high success rate. Most separating or divorcing couples who participate in private mediation resolve all essential issues and never go to court, except for a brief uncontested divorce hearing. Research shows that mediated agreements have higher compliance rates than court-ordered agreements, that participants have higher levels of satisfaction with mediated agreements, and that both parents are more likely to stay involved in their children's lives after attending mediation. This makes sense when you consider that mediation allows both people to participate in the creation of the agreement.
6. Divorce Mediation Offers More Privacy.
The proceedings of a court hearing are open to the public, while the negotiations that occur in mediation are confidential.
7. In Divorce Mediation You Make the Decisions.
In mediation, you maintain control over your decisions, instead of giving that power to a judge. You can create an agreement that fits your family instead of having an arrangement imposed by a stranger. While most judges are hard-working and well-intentioned professionals, few of them have special training in family dynamics or child development, and almost all judges must make decisions quickly in order to meet docket pressures.
8. Divorce Mediation Is a Creative Process.
The mediation process encourages creativity and brainstorming to find a truly win/win solution. Because mediation isn't bound by the same legal restrictions as the courts, in mediation you are free to consider and even experiment with a greater range of options.
9. Divorce Mediation Teaches Life Long Skills.
Couples often learn new communication skills in mediation. During the mediation sessions you practice positive conflict resolution skills tailored to your needs. These skills help parents negotiate the various issues that inevitably arise as children grow up.
10. Divorce Mediation Is a Low-Risk Option.
With mediation you are not giving up the adversarial option. If mediation fails, you can still go to attorneys and the courts. You are also not on your own with mediation. The mediator will guide you through the issues and, as needed, encourage you to get advice from attorneys, financial consultants, accountants, and child development experts. In addition, the content of mediation (discussions, documents, records, etc.) are protected by a confidentiality agreement and cannot be used as evidence in court.